We all think we are perfect. Well, not perfect but to some extent always right. I, however, do try to combat against this feeling. If I am wrong I want to know. At least in the right manner. If you come to me with a better than thou attitude than most assuredly my feathers will get ruffled. On the flip side, if you come to me with the attitude of truly trying to help me than I am all ears. Maybe most people are like that. I can't be sure.
Of course, I have a story. The parties that are involved most likely don't read my blog so I am glad to relay the story to those who do. I am writing this simply for the fact that I found out that I was "blogged" about today. That didn't make me feel too great. Fortunately, I have a different outlook on life than I did 10 years ago. Or even 5 years ago. My first instinct would have been to pitch a fit and "let that person have it." The "new" me is much calmer. I, for the most part, try to think of things rationally. (even though I did "unfollow" him on Twitter.) There is a reason for every situation and I need to remember that. Also, I think that I know this person well enough that he wasn't trying to be mean or spiteful. Even though the blog had some pretty harsh blows. But he is my bff at work. This is what made me more upset.
There was a situation at work. My feelings (women and their feelings!!) got hurt and he was mad. He felt that I smarted off to him (I was just direct) and he came and snatched something from me. This took me by surprise. I had never seen this side of him before and I could tell he was upset. But he was making a point. And that, I must say, was totally HOTT! So we had a discussion about it and I thought it was over. Then BAMM!!! Here comes the blog. Needless to say, we had another discussion! It was almost as if I couldn't get him to see why I had been upset. He even thought I made a status update about him on FB. Maybe I don't let my anger show enough. I think that is a good and a bad thing. The "old"me got mad at the drop of a hat and spouted off the first thing that came to my mind. The "new " me lets it build up inside of me till I spew ugliness. That is not cool. I want to fight fair. Actually, I don't want to fight at all. But there has to be a medium to which I can convey my feelings in a healthy way.
So that's it...I won't be reading his blogs for a while. Even though, I think he understands where I am coming from now. And I from him. He vents through blogs, and I vent to people. Friendships are great because they make you see how much you have to learn. And how much you have to write about.
A Friend Can Tell You Things You Don't Want to Tell Yourself- Frances Ward Weller
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
B.F.F.
B.F.F. The term that was made popular by The Hills and L.C. is kinda funny to say. Now it's just a habit. I have been fortunate to have a few B.F.F.'s. I have also been unfortunate to lose some. Not necessarily by means of a falling out but just because some people grow apart. It's really quite sad. Almost as bad as a breakup. I will pass on both.
When I was in 4th grade, I had my first B.F.F. B. J. Meyers. She was in my class and she lived down the road from me. I spent the night with her and we hung out all the time. We talked about our crushes, our teachers, and rode our bikes like crazy. We rode every trail that could be found. Then her dad had to move because of his job. It was pretty devastating. I got her address but we never really kept in touch. I still have some of our letters that we used to pass to each other in class.
Soon after that, I found another best friend. Now we were close. But my dad dated her mom so we kinda had to be.
In middle school and high school, I had several "best friends." I was fortunate to have good friends at school and in church. One of my best friends was a guy. He would do anything in the world for me. Yes, we liked each other for several years, but to this day I would consider him to be one of the very best friends that I have ever had. And I hope that he would say the same about me. I loved his family and he loved mine. My girlfriends were great too. In high school, I had the best time. We had a close knit group of friends and there were always good times. There were some bad times, too. Boyfriends being "stolen", dirty looks being given, breakups, drama, and anything in the life of a teenager that might could be possible.
In my adult life, I have several best friends as well. A lot of these friends are ones that I was friends with from younger days. I have added a few along the way! :) However, it is so sad to me that when you spend some of the best times with people and love them with all of your heart that they let someone or something come in between those relationships. Some women feel that it is imperative that they need a man, boyfriend, and husband to complete their world. They would just about sell their soul to have a mate. This I do not have patience for. It is also a tragedy when they let a mate's ideas, motives, and actions change who they are as a person. I believe that a boyfriend or husband should not dominate how the woman feels. I see it everyday at work. Women cannot make simple decisions about phones unless they consult with their husband. They simply cannot make a decision on their own. They want to know what their husband thinks about the phone or if he will "let" them get another one. Now, I may be a little too independent but noone is going to "let" me get a phone. Give me a break. Anyway, back to the subject. I just wish that women could see how much they let a man change who they are as a person and realize that some day that man may not be there. Girlfriends will always be there to pick up the pieces. I just hope the woman hasn't pushed her gf's so far away that they still have some left.
When I was in 4th grade, I had my first B.F.F. B. J. Meyers. She was in my class and she lived down the road from me. I spent the night with her and we hung out all the time. We talked about our crushes, our teachers, and rode our bikes like crazy. We rode every trail that could be found. Then her dad had to move because of his job. It was pretty devastating. I got her address but we never really kept in touch. I still have some of our letters that we used to pass to each other in class.
Soon after that, I found another best friend. Now we were close. But my dad dated her mom so we kinda had to be.
In middle school and high school, I had several "best friends." I was fortunate to have good friends at school and in church. One of my best friends was a guy. He would do anything in the world for me. Yes, we liked each other for several years, but to this day I would consider him to be one of the very best friends that I have ever had. And I hope that he would say the same about me. I loved his family and he loved mine. My girlfriends were great too. In high school, I had the best time. We had a close knit group of friends and there were always good times. There were some bad times, too. Boyfriends being "stolen", dirty looks being given, breakups, drama, and anything in the life of a teenager that might could be possible.
In my adult life, I have several best friends as well. A lot of these friends are ones that I was friends with from younger days. I have added a few along the way! :) However, it is so sad to me that when you spend some of the best times with people and love them with all of your heart that they let someone or something come in between those relationships. Some women feel that it is imperative that they need a man, boyfriend, and husband to complete their world. They would just about sell their soul to have a mate. This I do not have patience for. It is also a tragedy when they let a mate's ideas, motives, and actions change who they are as a person. I believe that a boyfriend or husband should not dominate how the woman feels. I see it everyday at work. Women cannot make simple decisions about phones unless they consult with their husband. They simply cannot make a decision on their own. They want to know what their husband thinks about the phone or if he will "let" them get another one. Now, I may be a little too independent but noone is going to "let" me get a phone. Give me a break. Anyway, back to the subject. I just wish that women could see how much they let a man change who they are as a person and realize that some day that man may not be there. Girlfriends will always be there to pick up the pieces. I just hope the woman hasn't pushed her gf's so far away that they still have some left.
Sunday, January 10, 2010
A New Post
Well, it has been a little while since I have posted anything. Still not even sure that more than a handful even read this. I guess it doesn't really matter who reads it but it really is therapeutic to me. So I thought I would write a quick little paragraph or two before I run off to the gym. I have been trying really hard to eat right and go everyday. I am going on vacation next week so I am trying to get in shape. I can't wait. It is so cold right now and all I want to do is lay by the pool. That is EXACTLY what I plan on doing! I am going to the Virgin Islands. I checked the temp and right now it is 82 degrees down there!! agghh!! love it!
I was looking on facebook today and saw a girl that I knew from several years ago with her now college friends. It made me miss the days of living in a dorm and having tons of friends all the time. There was always something to do, a date to go on , or friends to just hang around and talk to. I really miss those days ALOT!! (well some of them) If I think about it too long it will just really depress me. Then I have to bring myself to reality and think that one day I will look back on TODAY and feel the same way! I have to make the best of today and not wish I were back where I used to be or even where I will be in the future. Life is so short and it is meant to be lived for the moment. If there is something in my life that I am not happy with then I need to take the steps to get where I need to be. That is hard to do when you are comfortable. I was thinking about talking to a friend about this same thing. We just haven't gotten around to the conversation. Every thing in life is for a purpose. What is the purpose of my being in this position right now? What can I learn from this? Sometimes it is hard to see when you are not in the position that you want to be.
Last night, I watched the movie "500 Days of Summer". The best movie!! Such a chick Flick! I think I am going to watch it again tonight!! Please watch it! I don't want to talk about it unless someone decides to watch it and then I have given the whole thing away!
I was talking to a friend the other day. I haven't spoken to her in a few years. We just kind of lost touch. I feel like she is my baby. I watched her grow, dealt with her temper tantrums, and loved on her all the time. She is part of my heart. The saddest part is that when you have mutual friends that you no longer talk to and that person was the reason she is a friend in the first place. ok really the saddest part is when your baby girl says that she wishes you were back together with that person. I can't imagine how divorce must feel like. I can't imagine being married to a person, having a child, and then being distant from the father. It seems so sad. Definetely not what it is supposed to be like. It makes you wonder if a lot of people feel the same way she does about this situation. I think so. It can be very confusing if you put a lot of thought into it. I mean, what if that person makes the wrong decision then you are the one who is left to find the right path, even though you are pretty confident you are on the right one? I am not just talking about relationships either. I mean what if someone didn't choose you for a promotion and you just knew you were supposed to get that job. You knew you would have been perfect for it. Or what if you were meant to be in that car accident but you stayed to talk to a friend just a few seconds longer? Your choice changed the course of action. It all can be very confusing but I believe that if you have faith it is not very confusing at all. Well, maybe not about the relationship part! What if I broke up with the wrong person? What if we were meant to be together and I sent him packing? I have changed the whole course. I have sent him away to find someone else and "settle". Or what if a guy that asks me out, doesn't even get a second look from me? What if that is the good guy that I am missing out on! What if a guy that has broken up with me missed out on the best relationship and unfortunately he is dealing with the consequences? Well, that is EXACTLY what happened! So good luck to him. He's going to need it! And I am left with a GREAT friend and a GREAT life!!
I can't wait for my vacation!!! I'll post pics!!
I was looking on facebook today and saw a girl that I knew from several years ago with her now college friends. It made me miss the days of living in a dorm and having tons of friends all the time. There was always something to do, a date to go on , or friends to just hang around and talk to. I really miss those days ALOT!! (well some of them) If I think about it too long it will just really depress me. Then I have to bring myself to reality and think that one day I will look back on TODAY and feel the same way! I have to make the best of today and not wish I were back where I used to be or even where I will be in the future. Life is so short and it is meant to be lived for the moment. If there is something in my life that I am not happy with then I need to take the steps to get where I need to be. That is hard to do when you are comfortable. I was thinking about talking to a friend about this same thing. We just haven't gotten around to the conversation. Every thing in life is for a purpose. What is the purpose of my being in this position right now? What can I learn from this? Sometimes it is hard to see when you are not in the position that you want to be.
Last night, I watched the movie "500 Days of Summer". The best movie!! Such a chick Flick! I think I am going to watch it again tonight!! Please watch it! I don't want to talk about it unless someone decides to watch it and then I have given the whole thing away!
I was talking to a friend the other day. I haven't spoken to her in a few years. We just kind of lost touch. I feel like she is my baby. I watched her grow, dealt with her temper tantrums, and loved on her all the time. She is part of my heart. The saddest part is that when you have mutual friends that you no longer talk to and that person was the reason she is a friend in the first place. ok really the saddest part is when your baby girl says that she wishes you were back together with that person. I can't imagine how divorce must feel like. I can't imagine being married to a person, having a child, and then being distant from the father. It seems so sad. Definetely not what it is supposed to be like. It makes you wonder if a lot of people feel the same way she does about this situation. I think so. It can be very confusing if you put a lot of thought into it. I mean, what if that person makes the wrong decision then you are the one who is left to find the right path, even though you are pretty confident you are on the right one? I am not just talking about relationships either. I mean what if someone didn't choose you for a promotion and you just knew you were supposed to get that job. You knew you would have been perfect for it. Or what if you were meant to be in that car accident but you stayed to talk to a friend just a few seconds longer? Your choice changed the course of action. It all can be very confusing but I believe that if you have faith it is not very confusing at all. Well, maybe not about the relationship part! What if I broke up with the wrong person? What if we were meant to be together and I sent him packing? I have changed the whole course. I have sent him away to find someone else and "settle". Or what if a guy that asks me out, doesn't even get a second look from me? What if that is the good guy that I am missing out on! What if a guy that has broken up with me missed out on the best relationship and unfortunately he is dealing with the consequences? Well, that is EXACTLY what happened! So good luck to him. He's going to need it! And I am left with a GREAT friend and a GREAT life!!
I can't wait for my vacation!!! I'll post pics!!
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
A New Year
New Beginnings! I love them! There is so much hope. So much anticipation. To think that Jesus would give us another day to wake up and start over. His word says that His blessings are new every day. How awesome to serve a Savior who loves us. He wants us to make our own decisions. He doesn't want us to be little puppets. He is also right there when we have decided that those decisions weren't exactly the right ones to make. That kind of grace is what I need every day in my life. I am so quick to say words (and if I don't say them I JUST might think them) that are not beneficial to others. I try not to do this often but you better believe that if I think you are wrong, I will let you know. That's not necessarilly a bad thing but I am just really starting to learn that its all in the way you say things. I work with a great group of people whom I dearly love that teach me these lessons everyday. Every person you meet can teach you something about your life and it is up to you whether to learn the lesson. Anyway, I digress.
I am so excited to begin a new year! I will be 30 this year!!! I can't believe it!! I never thought I would be this age. I certainly didn't expect to be where I am at this point in my life. As I sit here and think about it, I wouldn't have it any other way! I have been so blessed and I have been led down exactly the right path even though I have been positive that it was the wrong path several times! I have learned so much about myself this past year. I just wish it wouldn't have taken me so long. :) This new year will be a great one! A fresh start. I hope whoever reads this blog would know that I am praying for you. I hope that means something to you. Please know that "there is no God like our God!" There have been many great leaders and philosophers. They have said great things, spoken eloquently, and deservingly made the history books. Yet, there is only one who is no longer in the grave. That is Jesus. He created you. And me. Please let Him change your life. I hope that you would have a great new year!
I am so excited to begin a new year! I will be 30 this year!!! I can't believe it!! I never thought I would be this age. I certainly didn't expect to be where I am at this point in my life. As I sit here and think about it, I wouldn't have it any other way! I have been so blessed and I have been led down exactly the right path even though I have been positive that it was the wrong path several times! I have learned so much about myself this past year. I just wish it wouldn't have taken me so long. :) This new year will be a great one! A fresh start. I hope whoever reads this blog would know that I am praying for you. I hope that means something to you. Please know that "there is no God like our God!" There have been many great leaders and philosophers. They have said great things, spoken eloquently, and deservingly made the history books. Yet, there is only one who is no longer in the grave. That is Jesus. He created you. And me. Please let Him change your life. I hope that you would have a great new year!
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Cornucopia
First, I would like to say that it is very important that I never go to bed at 9:00 at night again. I should know that I will wake up at 3 a.m. and won't be able to go back to sleep. But, I wasn't feeling too good and knew that I had to sleep off whatever illness was getting ready to take over my body. I have decided to post something but really have nothing special to write. I am just going to put down what is in my thoughts right now! O goodness!! These thoughts are not limited to me but could also include those around me...Here goes my thought pattern in the wee hours:
I am really, really tired but I should go to the gym.
Why does my brother have to stay up all night. He needs a life.
I am so glad they got engaged.
I really want to go to Hawaii.
Can't wait for my vacation next month.
Hope we can go skiing in Feb.
Should have been nicer to that person today.
Shouldn't have said that. It did not come across right.
Need to finish that book so I can start another one.
Need to get out of this town quick!
Can't wait for Charleston next week for NYE
Mixed emotions about my job.
I love the movie He's just not that into you. Watched it 2 nights ago but going to watch it in a few.
I need to stay in better touch with her. She always calls first. Need to be a better friend.
CANNOT believe that I forgot to get a Christmas present for that person.
Love my friends at work.
Why won't this guy get the hint? I'm just not that into him! :)
Why is it that when you are FINALLY interested in someone that they don't have the same idea? And the ones that are interested in you might as well take a hike.
Granny always says "men are like streetcars. one comes along every five minutes." That's philosphy! so true!
Sad that when a much older guy marries a younger girl (like 10 years) that she obviously hangs on his every word but he doesn't show that much emotion or love to her. There is always one person who loves more in the relationship.
Think that I have finally gotten over my hangup about dating younger guys. They are more fun.
I wonder what kind of career I could have that would help others and make a lot of money. An interpreter for the deaf would be a good idea. Such a beautiful language and you could truly help people that were in need.
I think I want to join the Peace Corp.
Want to take Reese to the aquarium.
Need to buy new contacts before the year end.
Need to learn another language.
Need a travelling buddy.
So happy for my friends that are starting their careers.
I miss my cousin!
Need to write thank you notes! Glad that I have my stationery.
I need to go to sleep so I can wake up for church.
So that is it. Pretty random stuff. It is early, though! I still have the whole day to think of more.
Good night. Or should I say, Good Morning?!
I am really, really tired but I should go to the gym.
Why does my brother have to stay up all night. He needs a life.
I am so glad they got engaged.
I really want to go to Hawaii.
Can't wait for my vacation next month.
Hope we can go skiing in Feb.
Should have been nicer to that person today.
Shouldn't have said that. It did not come across right.
Need to finish that book so I can start another one.
Need to get out of this town quick!
Can't wait for Charleston next week for NYE
Mixed emotions about my job.
I love the movie He's just not that into you. Watched it 2 nights ago but going to watch it in a few.
I need to stay in better touch with her. She always calls first. Need to be a better friend.
CANNOT believe that I forgot to get a Christmas present for that person.
Love my friends at work.
Why won't this guy get the hint? I'm just not that into him! :)
Why is it that when you are FINALLY interested in someone that they don't have the same idea? And the ones that are interested in you might as well take a hike.
Granny always says "men are like streetcars. one comes along every five minutes." That's philosphy! so true!
Sad that when a much older guy marries a younger girl (like 10 years) that she obviously hangs on his every word but he doesn't show that much emotion or love to her. There is always one person who loves more in the relationship.
Think that I have finally gotten over my hangup about dating younger guys. They are more fun.
I wonder what kind of career I could have that would help others and make a lot of money. An interpreter for the deaf would be a good idea. Such a beautiful language and you could truly help people that were in need.
I think I want to join the Peace Corp.
Want to take Reese to the aquarium.
Need to buy new contacts before the year end.
Need to learn another language.
Need a travelling buddy.
So happy for my friends that are starting their careers.
I miss my cousin!
Need to write thank you notes! Glad that I have my stationery.
I need to go to sleep so I can wake up for church.
So that is it. Pretty random stuff. It is early, though! I still have the whole day to think of more.
Good night. Or should I say, Good Morning?!
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Cinderella
I love music. I love the lyrics the best. One of my fave songs is "Insensitive" by Jann Arden. I totally know exactly where that song is coming from and have lived it a few times. Just to give you some of the lyrics (ok all of them!):
How do you cool your lips after a summer's kiss?
How do you rid the sweat after the body bliss?
How do you turn your eyes from the romantic glare?
How do you block the sound of a voice you'd know anywhere?
Oh I really should have known by the time you drove me home
By the vagueness in your eyes, your casual good-byes.
By the chill in your embrace and the expression on your face
That told me maybe you might have some advice to give
On how to be Insensitive.
How do you numb your skin after the warmest touch?
How do you slow your blood after the body rush?
How do you free your soul after you've found a friend?
How do you teach your heart it's a crime to fall in love again?
Oh you probably won't remember me, it's probably ancient history
I'm one of the chosen few who went ahead and fell for you.
I'm out of vogue, I'm out of touch, I fell too fast, I feel too much.
I thought that you might have some advice to give
On how to be Insensitive.
Oh I really should have known by the time you drove me home,
By the vagueness in your eyes, your casual good-byes.
By the chill in your embrace and the expression on your face
That told me maybe you might have some advice to give
On how to be Insensitive.
How do you cool your lips after a summer's kiss?
How do you rid the sweat after the body bliss?
How do you turn your eyes from the romantic glare?
How do you block the sound of a voice you'd know anywhere?
Oh I really should have known by the time you drove me home,
By the vagueness in your eyes, your casual good-byes.
By the chill in your embrace and the expression on your face
That told me maybe you might have some advice to give
On how to be Insensitive.
How do you numb your skin after the warmest touch?
How do you slow your blood after the body rush?
How do you free your soul after you've found a friend?
How do you teach your heart it's a crime to fall in love again?
Oh you probably won't remember me, it's probably ancient history,
I'm one of the chosen few who went ahead and fell for you.
I'm out of vogue, I'm out of touch, I fell too fast, I feel too much.
I thought that you might have some advice to give
On how to be Insensitive.
Oh I really should have known by the time you drove me home
By the vagueness in your eyes, your casual good-byes.
By the chill in your embrace and the expression on your face
That told me maybe you might have some advice to give
On how to be Insensitive.
Relationships. Everyone wants to know about them. Everyone wants to read about them. Everyday people ask me if I am dating, who I am dating...children? married? divorced? Everyone is so interested in relationships in general. So that is why I am writing this blog. It makes for better reading! :) It's what we thrive on. After all, it IS what makes the world go round. I recently changed my facebook status to "in a relationship". I have done this before but did not expect the turn out from this last relationship status. Calls, texts, emails, Im's, and voicemails flooded me for a few days. I didn't realize how much people were interested in my love life until now. Truthfully, they probably aren't interested in me just the idea of a new relationship. Of course, I can't say this about all of them ,but some, anyway. Its the beginning of wonderful dreams, hopes, and expectations that maybe life will turn into a fairy tale of sorts for SOMEBODY! The truth is that we are all human. We will let down the other person and be let down several times in any relationship. So why do we believe in fairy tales if we know they will never completely come true? I think that the idea of a modern day relationship is such chaos. The older I get, the harder it is to find a man who will truly respect me. It seemed that when I was younger, relationships were so easy. One Word: JADED! ( Not me, of course. Them! :) Men, I believe, are in the same predicament. Women are so independent ( I know, because I am one of those women) and it is hard to let the man be who he is in a relationship. I think it is imperative for each to be who they were meant to be without overstepping the boundaries of the other party. Women should be able to speak their mind and be who they are with the understanding that a man needs to be a man and truly wants to take care of a woman. This shouldn't make a woman feel inferior but rather loved and protected. I can think back to relationships where I didn't want to be taken care of because I was "woman enough" to take care of myself. Hind sight is 20/20 and I now can see how much that person loved me. Even as I am writing this, I realize how old fashioned this sounds but I really do believe that it makes for the best relationships. I didn't say I did it! I don't believe that Cinderella was completely from a woman's point of view. I believe it was also from the man's point of view as well. A man was made to be a protector and provider, not to be talked down to by a woman. I definetely don't believe that a man should talk down to a woman and I see it every single day!! I don't believe that all men want to be in a relationship. Many couldn't care less about them. One day they will though. Hopefully. Life is too short. This is one reason I love marriages that have lasted 30 years or more. I admire the dedication, commitment, and love that hopefully still lasts in these marriages.
So I am not real sure what my song had to do with this post. Other than I love it!!
~ciao
How do you cool your lips after a summer's kiss?
How do you rid the sweat after the body bliss?
How do you turn your eyes from the romantic glare?
How do you block the sound of a voice you'd know anywhere?
Oh I really should have known by the time you drove me home
By the vagueness in your eyes, your casual good-byes.
By the chill in your embrace and the expression on your face
That told me maybe you might have some advice to give
On how to be Insensitive.
How do you numb your skin after the warmest touch?
How do you slow your blood after the body rush?
How do you free your soul after you've found a friend?
How do you teach your heart it's a crime to fall in love again?
Oh you probably won't remember me, it's probably ancient history
I'm one of the chosen few who went ahead and fell for you.
I'm out of vogue, I'm out of touch, I fell too fast, I feel too much.
I thought that you might have some advice to give
On how to be Insensitive.
Oh I really should have known by the time you drove me home,
By the vagueness in your eyes, your casual good-byes.
By the chill in your embrace and the expression on your face
That told me maybe you might have some advice to give
On how to be Insensitive.
How do you cool your lips after a summer's kiss?
How do you rid the sweat after the body bliss?
How do you turn your eyes from the romantic glare?
How do you block the sound of a voice you'd know anywhere?
Oh I really should have known by the time you drove me home,
By the vagueness in your eyes, your casual good-byes.
By the chill in your embrace and the expression on your face
That told me maybe you might have some advice to give
On how to be Insensitive.
How do you numb your skin after the warmest touch?
How do you slow your blood after the body rush?
How do you free your soul after you've found a friend?
How do you teach your heart it's a crime to fall in love again?
Oh you probably won't remember me, it's probably ancient history,
I'm one of the chosen few who went ahead and fell for you.
I'm out of vogue, I'm out of touch, I fell too fast, I feel too much.
I thought that you might have some advice to give
On how to be Insensitive.
Oh I really should have known by the time you drove me home
By the vagueness in your eyes, your casual good-byes.
By the chill in your embrace and the expression on your face
That told me maybe you might have some advice to give
On how to be Insensitive.
Relationships. Everyone wants to know about them. Everyone wants to read about them. Everyday people ask me if I am dating, who I am dating...children? married? divorced? Everyone is so interested in relationships in general. So that is why I am writing this blog. It makes for better reading! :) It's what we thrive on. After all, it IS what makes the world go round. I recently changed my facebook status to "in a relationship". I have done this before but did not expect the turn out from this last relationship status. Calls, texts, emails, Im's, and voicemails flooded me for a few days. I didn't realize how much people were interested in my love life until now. Truthfully, they probably aren't interested in me just the idea of a new relationship. Of course, I can't say this about all of them ,but some, anyway. Its the beginning of wonderful dreams, hopes, and expectations that maybe life will turn into a fairy tale of sorts for SOMEBODY! The truth is that we are all human. We will let down the other person and be let down several times in any relationship. So why do we believe in fairy tales if we know they will never completely come true? I think that the idea of a modern day relationship is such chaos. The older I get, the harder it is to find a man who will truly respect me. It seemed that when I was younger, relationships were so easy. One Word: JADED! ( Not me, of course. Them! :) Men, I believe, are in the same predicament. Women are so independent ( I know, because I am one of those women) and it is hard to let the man be who he is in a relationship. I think it is imperative for each to be who they were meant to be without overstepping the boundaries of the other party. Women should be able to speak their mind and be who they are with the understanding that a man needs to be a man and truly wants to take care of a woman. This shouldn't make a woman feel inferior but rather loved and protected. I can think back to relationships where I didn't want to be taken care of because I was "woman enough" to take care of myself. Hind sight is 20/20 and I now can see how much that person loved me. Even as I am writing this, I realize how old fashioned this sounds but I really do believe that it makes for the best relationships. I didn't say I did it! I don't believe that Cinderella was completely from a woman's point of view. I believe it was also from the man's point of view as well. A man was made to be a protector and provider, not to be talked down to by a woman. I definetely don't believe that a man should talk down to a woman and I see it every single day!! I don't believe that all men want to be in a relationship. Many couldn't care less about them. One day they will though. Hopefully. Life is too short. This is one reason I love marriages that have lasted 30 years or more. I admire the dedication, commitment, and love that hopefully still lasts in these marriages.
So I am not real sure what my song had to do with this post. Other than I love it!!
~ciao
Monday, December 21, 2009
Subscribe to:
Comments (Atom)